This Lonely Game We Play

Michael at 2Blowhards kindly linked to my post about Michelle Malkin, and the animosity the left carries toward relationships and marriages between white men and Filipino women.  One of his commenters responds:

"But I seriously doubt that left-wingers dislike Malkin because she's a successful Filipina. That just doesn't sound like anyone I know."

No, your friends don’t talk about the anger they feel toward white/Filipina intermarriages.  They don’t even know, often, that they are angry because they don’t understand the source of that anger.

My late wife, Myrna, a Filipina, and I owned a second home in Woodstock, New York.  I owned a home in Woodstock for 15 years before I married Myrna.

I remember sitting down to dinner one night at the Little Bear Chinese restaurant with Ed, an old friend.  Myrna and I were trying to explain the constant beating we were taking from the local leftist feminist white women.

“We can’t even go in a restaurant without a white woman hitting Myrna in the head with a tray, or her bag,” I said.  “Sometimes, they just dump food or wine in her lap.”

“Why would they do that?” Ed responded.  “I can’t believe that.  People here aren’t like that.  Nobody here is prejudiced.”

As if on cue, the waitress, a white woman, dumped a glass of wine in Myrna’s lap.  Fortunately, it was a white wine.

Myrna jumped up and went for the bitch’s throat.  “Goddamn you, you stupid piece of shit!” she screamed.  “I am so fucking tired of cunts like you doing this to me!”

I had to drag Myrna back into her chair and restrain her.  It took a while for everything to die down.

“See what I mean?” I told Ed.

“Oh, that was just an accident,” he said.  “You’re making something out of nothing.”

Before Myrna’s arrival in Woodstock, I had been one of the most popular men in town, a well known local musician.  In the 13 years that Myrna and I spent our weekends and summers in Woodstock, we were almost never invited to a social function, and our phone just never rang.  This really hurt Myrna.  She loved social life.  Before Myrna’s time, I could fill up a club in Woodstock, with the crowd falling out into the streets.  That died the moment Myrna began to sing with me.  And, this was not the case when we sang in New York City or on the Jersey Shore. 

The only thing that changed in my life was that I was married to a Filipina.

I struggled to understand the animosity toward our relationship in the first year or two.  We were constantly taunted with the “mail order bride” crap.  Sitting in a café in Woodstock became almost impossible for us.  Everytime I tried to tell people what was happening, including suggesting to the Woodstock Times that they cover the story, the answer was:  “You’ve got to be kidding.  We’re the good guys.  We fought for the right of white women to date black men.  We’re not prejudiced.  It’s the people we hate… Republicans… who are prejudiced.” 

My Filipino extended family always says:  “The best wife is a Filipina.”  If you frequent Filipino society, you will hear this quite often.  Filipinas take pride in being wonderful wives.  This is a very deep thread in Filipino culture.  Filipino culture adores romance, music and dance, serenading and marriage.

My wife took her marriage very seriously.  She took good care of me.  Marriage, to Myrna, was sacred.  And, this is where she ran into grief with the local leftists, and particularly, white feminist women.  They perceived her as a threat.  Other white men took one look at Myrna’s devotion to me, and it wasn’t long before they were thinking:  “I’d like to have a woman like that, instead of a white feminist woman who’s always beating me about the ears and shaming me.”  One of my nephews, once he got to know Myrna, made it a point to find himself a Filipino wife.

So, no, the leftist hatred of relationships between white men and Filipinas isn’t the same as the traditional white hatred of relationships between black men and white women.  That racial animus is totally invisible to the leftist.  White feminist women loathe Filipinas because the traditional Filipina will not toe the line. The traditional Filipina treasures marriage and family.

You’d be surprised how chivalry plays into this.  Tell a white man that feminist white women are racist, and you are in for a fight.  “Nobody talks like that about our women,” seems to be a motto.  And, white feminist men get a little touchy about the notion that their women should have to compete for the love of a man. A Filipina is tough competition for the heart of a man.  The leftist, feminist ethic, in fact, attacks competition as the very source of evil.  In that ethic, a woman is entitled to a man because… well, just because she’s alive and breathing.  To suggest that she might serve and treasure a man… what audacity!

So, yes, the leftist animosity toward Michelle Malkin is racist.  She’s a “race traitor,” in that she should ascribe to leftist politics.  She is, after all, indebted to leftist political activism for her education and her job (according to leftists), even though in reality the quota system punishes her. And, she’s one of those attractive, feminine Filipinas who refuses to be in on the game of beating on the men and shaming them.  For every Filipina who refuses to play this game, a feminist white woman loses another white man who departs for better company and better treatment. 

Yes, it is all about race.  And, no, a leftist cannot even see the racism in this game.

Comments

[Marcus Aurelius]

Kawawa kayo naman! :-(

This is a sad story and fortunately my wife and I do not get such grief.

I have been asked about MOBs once and I explained our story (we met in the Middle East, a typical guy meets girl story).

However, we do not live in a leftist enclave. The only guff my wife has had to put up with was an old lady in the nursing home didn't want anything to do with her because she thought my wife was Japanese. My wife won her over very quickly.

[Tom Bosee]

I thought we flushed away all this racial nonsense in the sixties! My advice: get the person with a bias to agree to the obvious fact that there is only one Human Race, the Human Race! Then tell them you can choose a mate for me, if I can choose one for you!

[Sigmund Clyde]

I find your logic laughable. You cannot pigeonhole people whether they be leftist feminist or right leaning folks who want to categorize folks on the lessons of their own paranoa and observations in life. If that be the case I'd think all Filipino women, inspite of your claims of being totally devoted to their spouses, get drooling drunk every Friday or Saturday night and chase their African American husband through the streets of Highland Park, MI with a machete. Not only did this one particular lady do this regularly her sister did it too. often to count. But that wouldn't be a fair characterization of Filipino women, the race, the people, would it. Hell no. But here you are Mr. Music Man sounding sour notes by condemning liberals as bigots because of your tiny experience in Woodstock, NY. Please. Shut up. You Neo-cons, right wing sorts got all the answers and they are always wrong.

[Housewife]

WOW. I had no clue, thanks for informing me.

[Peter]

It's so disgraceful how people can be. And it's not easy to ignore such ostracism.

[T r a c y]

you live in a weird little world !

[Tommy Gnosis]

You laugh at what you call a gay conspiracy to perpetuate the myth of discrimination or institutionalized hostility toward homosexuals, yet you would have us believe that there is a huge and largely denied current of racism/misogyny versus filipina women?

From where I sit, you pretty much are what you hate. Sucks to be you.

[S.R. Prozak]

I think you're accurate here: the left hates anyone who will not participate in its crowd revolt madness. They don't want traditional roles, but they don't want anyone else to be able to do that. It reminds me of Republicans vs marijuana. Neither side is for "freedom." Both sides want different brands of the same dysfunction. Even the anarchists want to beat down non-anarchists. One reason I'm a fascist is that there's zero hypocrisy about it. We recognize that "freedom" is an illusion. We're upfront about kicking our ideological enemies out of our countries. And we're not two-faced on the racial issue, whether you agree with our stance or not!